It's no secret that parents should pay attention to how they communicate with their children. Even tiger moms and parents following the French style of raising children could agree that what we say to our kids -- and how we say it -- matters. Tiger moms and French parents get the results they want largely because of what they say. But besides using words to get kids to do what they want, how moms and dads communicate with their kids directly impacts the parent-child relationship long term. And it's the simple statements parents make, usually in a moment of frustration with their young children, which can cause the most damage later on.
Abdul can’t stop talking about his forthcoming trip abroad. And why not? This is the first time the excited 14-year-old will be travelling outside India. His father, Naeem, has been granted permission by the Bombay high court to take the teenager abroad.
Abdul’s parents divorced when he was barely 11 months old. The child was entrusted in his father’s care; mother Fatima has access rights. Both parents get to share half-a-vacation each with Abdul. This time, Naeem applied to the court to take Abdul to the UK and Europe.
The earliest memory I have of my father is a tall man, so caring and compassionate. I remember being about five or six years old and not doing so well in school. My mother was giving me an earful and I anxiously awaited my dad's arrival from the bank expecting a further dosage of chastisement. My father sauntered in and charges were levelled against me and to my pleasant surprise, he sat down, put me on his lap and gave me a big hug and kiss and told me to do better next time.
Fathers and Families® improves the lives of children and strengthens society by protecting the child’s right to the love and care of both parents after separation or divorce. We seek better lives for children through family court reform that establishes equal rights and responsibilities for fathers and mothers.
CRISP FATHER DAY 2011 CELEBRATION AT TOWN HALL BANGALORE
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Sunday, 29 April 2012 14:13
Sixteen Arguments in Support of Shared Parenting
Written by Edward Kruk
Sunday, 29 April 2012 13:48
I have long maintained that a more child-focused approach to resolving parenting disputes after separation and divorce is needed to reduce harm to children and ensure their well-being. Usually, when parents cannot agree on parenting matters, they take their case to a judge for a resolution. The court then applies a "best interests of the child" standard in its decision-making in regard to kids’ future living arrangements. The problem is, however, that this standard is extremely vague and indeterminate, based on projective speculation about which parent might in future be the “better” parent, and thus subject to judicial bias and error. Judges not trained in child development and family dynamics are given unfettered discretion, and this results in unpredictable outcomes based on idiosyncratic biases and subjective value judgments.
Fredrick Martin Jr. made no effort to conceal the pride he felt for his son. He bragged about the 8-year-old's skills at karate and baseball, and showed family members copies of the boy's completed homework.
"I have a young child genius," Martin told his half-sister recently.
On Tuesday evening, Martin, 28, was cleaning the garage of his grandmother's Inglewood home, along with his son, Fredrick "Tre" Martin III, and the boy's godfather, Joseph Hickman. Just after 7 p.m., they heard gunfire nearby.
Most good men struggle between their desire to be a good father, and the reality of being one. Our children aren’t born into the world holding on tightly to a manual to hand us to read and master, in order to provide us with everything that child is going to require of us. For the majority of us, it’s a case of on-the-job training… learning as we go. Fathering sons is hard enough, but at least we Dads were once boys ourselves. Fathering daughters on the other hand… most of us find that so much more difficult… the feminine heart being a mystery to many of us.
I’m a man who likes to keep things as simple as possible, because when something is simple, there’s a greater likelihood of actually following through and applying it into my life. So in the spirit of keeping things simple, please allow me to share three things that every daughter needs to receive from her Dad. If you’re not a Dad of a daughter, please continue to read on anyway. Why? Because it’s highly likely that you’re married to a daughter (remember your wife is a daughter), and that your son will one day marry a daughter. You’ll want to be armed with these simple, yet life-giving truths, so that you can be a man of understanding.
Over the past 5 years, close to 500,000 men and 200,000 women have been jailed without trial or investigation under Section 498A of the Indian Penal Code. Thousands of men have committed suicide after being falsely implicated under Section 498A.
The movie "498A - The Wedding Gift," produced by Aaliya Productions, written and directed by noted TV personality Suhaib Ilyasi, is based on this theme. It highlights the consequences of anti-male laws such as Section 498A, popularly known as the anti-dowry law. Suhaib Ilyasi is the famous host of the program, "India's Most Wanted," that was telecast on Zee TV.